Sometimes the reality we think we know isn’t at all what it seems.
I’ve been trying to write a recap of my experience at Make Things Happen for a couple of weeks. I wrote this post, explaining what led me to the conference, but for some reason the words just wouldn’t come together for a recap. I’ve started and stopped and started again and edited and deleted and it just won’t coagulate into something substantial.
And then, I found out that several women, some whose support I thought I had, have been using my words against me, twisting them, adding to them, and using them, and in reality using me, to break apart a family.
My first reaction was to remove their access to their ammunition – to take down this blog, to close my facebook page, to go back to photography as a hobby, because it isn’t worth the battle to have something I so thoroughly enjoy used against me. I have a career, I have a couple of degrees, I don’t need this nonsense in my life.
But, instead I’ve chosen to address the situation. Not in retaliation but to show that I’m human, too. I want my clients, my colleagues in this industry, and anyone else who happens to stumble upon my little piece of the Web, not to see a happy, perfect facade that would be so much easier to put out there, but that I’m just as real as the next guy and things sometimes go really great and sometimes really not so great for me, too. I want to share my journey of hard work and dedication, success and fallbacks, to show its not always easy but it is worth it.
It really is SO worth it. I may have a career and a couple of degrees, but this creative outlet that allows me to capture life’s important moments for my clients, and bless them with images that they will treasure for a lifetime, is so much more to me than just a business. This is a part of the big dreams I have for the future.
Your dreams are worth pursuing. There will be challenges along the way. There will be attacks that come from those you never dreamed would treat you badly or have so little regard for the damage their actions might cause. And there will be attacks from complete strangers. But, there will also be great victories. There will be people who think what you’re doing is amazing. There will be people cheering for you. And if ever you feel that there isn’t, just let me know and I will be happy to cheer for you!!
If I learned one thing at MTH, it was that you don’t need to know someone to cheer for them and to encourage them. We can all be in this together. And when we are able to look beyond ourselves and encourage others, amazing things start to happen. Don’t let the ones who don’t support you drag you down. Find the ones who do. Don’t let the noisy few distract you from the many who love and support you.
My husband and I have been married for seven months today and we are so rediculously happy together. We have a beautiful home that isn’t big enough to contain our blessings, two spoiled furbabies who bring us great joy, we are pursuing our dreams together as a team, and we have a support system that stretches deep and wide full of people who want nothing but the best for us and we want the same for them. Its not easy, it takes work, and it is SO worth it.